TWO-THEMED DANCE MUSIC : GUTI @ BIJOU 05.26.13

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On Sunday night, Boston dance music fans had an opportunity to see Argentina’s Guti drop a set in prime time. At Bijou, the rapidly rising DJ — whose full name is Jose Maria Gutierrez Hernandez — delivered a set unlike any other that this writer has seen, one with bottom beats and overriding detail so separated — and so individually spotlighted — that his two hours amounted to two entirely separate sets sharing the same time slot and space. There was realism in that: after all, two people dancing on the same dance floor are, in fact, two separate lives confronting in the same space and time. Guti’s Argentina has, for over 100 years, owned a dance, the tango, in which hot drama arises from the friction of two separate lives acting in the same space and time. Only fitting, was it, that Guti gave his Bijou fans a 21st century version of tango drama, a dance very different in its passions but much the same in its two wills willfully dancing.

In tango, the clash is of anger, of dislike, of sexual heat that forces itself through mutual rejection, power plays, sex as pain, humiliation, surrender. Nothing this dark happened in Guti’s Bijou set, but much the same plunge was implied — risked, even — yet gently avoided in his very dissimilar two waves. First came a big, alpha-male’s boot stomp, next an interlude of high-note bird’s calls followed by the boot stomp returning. This was the set’s pattern; the boot stomp had its minutes, only to give way to equal minutes of flutter, lullaby, whistling, twisty noises: seduction in a soprano octave.

His music amounted to two themes having an extened conversation, a give and take that, late in set, moved toward resolution as Guti mixed the two themes together in complicated angles — in each of which the two conversators worked their way around each other, as if to gain advantage. Yet no advantage was to be had; each theme in his \music maintained its tone, its movement, its initiative, and if, in his mix, the focal point between them tilted in one direction. Guti brought it back again to the other direction only to end up in the middle as stomp and flutter circled one another like side by side whirl-a-gigs of sound. Such too, was the tango.

Guti has, in the past four years especially — he has DJ’d for far longer than this — produced tracks, or re-mixed the work of other producers. His prolific body of work has attracted devotees almost everywhere that dance music is enjoyed. Many sound dream-like in their delicacy and whimsy : “Hope,” Ray Foxx’s “The Trumpeter,” “I’m feeling Interglactic,” Wols’s “Bushmans Oversized Vibe,” for example, and his remix of Livio & Roby’s “We Are.” Eqully many do a bounce, from squeaky squiggly to boot stomp: his remix of Davide Squillace’s “The Other Side of hiustler,” “option One,’ and “Bususki,” and “Non Adepto.’

This list by no means exhausted the sequence of excerpts from tracks, both his own and remixes, that he input to his Bijou workout. Using a PC program this writer hasn’t seen before, one that enabled him to pick and hunt from one track to another and punch it all into a scant two channels of mix, Guti squashed and jiggled the knobs on the PC mixboard. He cranked more two, three,m even four at once, pushing and pricking the sound into conversational cant. There was buffoonery in his mix and boasting too; zig zags and finger pointing. All of it pressured the dancers to move not just legs and hips but also hands, head, elbows, knees. Body talk took on advanced meaning — but not so advanced that a pair of classic tango dancers wouldn’t have understood every surge, sag, lean, pucker, wink, and prance in Guti’s battle of two wills willing upon each other.

It was aset not to be missed, as sublime and imaginative as any that this writer has seen in many, many years.

Opening for Guti was DJ D-Lux, whose reidency at Re:Set Wednesdays (in Cambridge) has made her a local, Boston star of deep house grooving. In front of Guti she played exactly what she is best at : two hours of rolling rhythm in murmur tones, a succulent flavor evoking the sweaty sentiments that deep house lives by. D-Lux’s set could easily have headlined almost any dance music club in the Boston area — at least at those few clubs hereabouts that are willing to embrace the deep house sound in its fullest evocation.

—- Deedee Freedberg / Feelin’ the Music

COFFEE OR VODKA ? PARENTING 911 : MEMORIAL DAY DISMAY

Dear: Parenting 911 :

Last year around Christmas we lost my Father in law. He was a very sweet and genuine man. My husband Jason does not have the fondest memories of his father, but my son Seth does. Walter was an awesome Grandpa. He was funny, goofy, and the ever reigning practical joke- King. I met Walter only a month before Jason and I got married. For most of our dating relationship I never even knew he existed. I was aware that Jason’s mother left Walter when Jason was very young. From what I’ve been told: she was a bit loony: however Walter insists that she was suffering from some mental illness associated with Jason’s birth. He also has implied on several occasions: that she was unhappy for several years after Walter returned from war. Jason believes his father was abusive, not to him but her.
I don’t know what to believe.I just know I have a son, who is heartbroken. A father in law who is hated, loved, and missed: and a husband who does not deal with any of it.

My son Seth started school this year. Last week he learned all about Memorial day, and what it means. He was taught that it is a day we show an extra bit of gratitude and thanks to our Veterans. Seth knows his Grandpa was in a war: and now wants to celebrate his life, and heroism. Jason refuses to acknowledge his father as anything but a bad memory….

Help Please…….

Sincerely,

I don’t care just fill-er-up

Dear: Fill-er-up

First, congratulations on seeing where this could impact the sweet little sponge: that is your 5 year old son. That age is so full of impact having, and defining moments. Seth is trying to first figure out his spot on the family tree. Who to mimic, who to ignore, as well as who to love. As a parent and much like Walter, you LOVE unconditionally. If I had to guess: I would say it is very likely that you we’re loved unconditionally as well. Jason see’s parenting, and the bond there-in as “conditional”….. Jason see’s parenting, as a choice he makes everyday to participate in Seth’s life. In both you and Jason’s life someone, or several someones,impacted your life: your way of thinking, the way YOU would describe parenting.
Jason’s jaded view is not necessarily wrong ( for him ). He is allowed to feel that way, he is allowed to hurt, and even to be angry. However what he is NOT allowed to do: is apply those feelings to his way of parenting. That is not only bad for Seth, but as you are feeling right now- bad for your PARENTAL UNIT, and relationship. My advice for dealing with Jason……..HAVE A SERIOUS TALK.

Guidelines to said discussion:

A) Do not be threatening, judgmental, or brash. Remember: He is not wrong for his feelings. He is however accountable for how he exhibits them.

B) Ask him what he thinks is the truth about his mother’s absence. Why did she leave?, If he can’t / won’t tell you, perhaps he needs to visit the idea of talking to someone professionally. Cognitive therapy is a structured way of dealing with things that you could not and should not personally take on- or attempt to advise on.

C) Explain your feelings to him, give him a chance to react like a grown up, and parent.

D) Continue to be his loving wife but…..BE A MOTHER FIRST. Always put what’s best for Seth ahead of what’s easier, what’s nice, and what’s best for the husband. A mother that puts herself or partner first is NEVER happy and often loses both in the long run. A partner can be talked to, helped to see right from wrong, and comprehend things in a way a child can not. We can’t always fix the damage we cause to our children……Your husband is proof……
( “Editor’s note” When saying “Be a mother first”, it is not because I, or anyone else would think you would not: because in all fairness your first inclination in the face of such a problem was to seek advice. That is the stuff GREAT moms are made of…)

ON TO THE BOY………

What an exciting time, when they start growing up, and realizing all the things that make the world go round, and all the people to thank for why it still does. Seth is absorbing his surroundings with intensity and the hunger to learn every day.

What he learns is obviously very important. Since as parents you are his First roll model’s, it is imperative to be good ones. Our actions are our children’s first ideas about how to think, act, love, hate, and be.

Regardless of how “Jason” feels about Walter, Memorial day is much more than one man. We as American’s are lucky enough to have a long list- including a whole wall and so many more tributes to our veterans and fallen soldiers. We are lucky to have veterans and fallen soldiers at all. Show Seth some pictures via the internet, or in person if you can. Showing him a great respect for lives given, people wounded, and battles fought with courage, and honor: is a great way to help him participate in the holiday while honoring, and paying respect to a man he loved.

I believe even your husband can’t argue with the the meaning of the day. I’m sure there are a few things he could find a way to participate in himself.

Memorial day is a wonderful chance to show Seth the blessings of giving back.

http://www.voa.org/landing?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=assumed%2Bterms&cn=ccs&ebcmp=10145557&advid=81984&ebag=2427698&ccsurl=$$http://clickserve.dartsearch.net/link/click?lid&cn=ccs&ebcmp=10145557&advid=81984&ebag=2427698&ccsurl=$$http://clickserve.dartsearch.net/link/click?lid&cn=ccs&ebcmp=10145557&advid=81984&ebag=2427698&ccsurl=$$http://clickserve.dartsearch.net/link/click?lid&cn=ccs&ebcmp=10145557&advid=81984&ebag=2427698&ccsurl=$$http://clickserve.dartsearch.net/link/click?lid&cn=ccs&ebcmp=10145557&advid=81984&ebag=2427698&ccsurl=$$http://clickserve.dartsearch.net/link/click?lid&ebkw=87906344&ebkw=87906344&ebkw=87906344&ebkw=87906344&ebkw=87906344&sead=20895971235&sead=20895971235&sead=20895971235&sead=20895971235&sead=20895971235
http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/11/10/iyw.help.vets/index.html

Or find other programs in which to volunteer.

If his Grandfather’s grave is not too far away, or if maybe he was laid to rest in a cemetery specifically for war veterans- perhaps paying a visit with fresh flowers or a special flag with Seth would be a nice outing.

Hope some of it helps and maybe through the years, Jason will come around to. Happy Memorial Day !!!

— Sincerely, Parenting 911

KAT GOT YOUR TONGUE : “BOOTY CHATTER”

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Hello my beloved Kat readers !!

So let’s cut to the chase and discuss another fun topic, OK ? I don’t usually use ebonics in my blogs but today will be an exception. This particular topic is a considerably unnecessary evil occurring in every conversation. Unable to fathom a better befitting word, today’s topic is “Booty Chatter.” For those unfamiliar with this terminology, it IS how it sounds. “Booty” is a derriere and “Chatter” is conversation. Put simply it’s “talking out of your butt.” I’m not deliberately being vulgar, just trying to be direct!

I’m sure a majority of people have been volunteered, unknowingly, to be subjected to nonsense. To me, there’s nothing more annoying than a conversation heading towards intellect only to detour into crazy town. Don’t get me wrong, I’m impartial to unexpected factoids — as long as they represent actuality. Today there’s a multitude of individuals pursuing not factoids but some illusion of professional grandeur. Some may begin their day at an entry level position and over cocktails that evening become a jack of all trades. Much like a super hero, they morph into philosopher, scientist, or politician — or all three, rolled into one!

Some readers may be questioning “how can I separate fact from opinion if what’s being said is said with such conviction?”

Truthfully, you can never really tell unless you know a person intimately. Furthermore anyone with common sense should be capable of distinguishing actual data from Booty Chatter. Seeing how it’s nearly impossible to detect these social pariahs, it’s best to remain accountable for one’s own blunders. Often it’s a cinch to confuse personal beliefs or convictions with legit facts especially if we feel passionate about our opinions. I too have previously been guilty of dispersing my personal views as if they were truths. Unfortunately, such dispersion is classified as “notions with no research to support such beliefs.”

Best way to avoid being a Booty Chatter perpetrator ? Avoid subject matter you’re not familiar with. Religion, politics, and sexuality are all sure to push you over the edge of very significant boundaries.

Readers please do heed my warning! There’s nothing more embarrassing than being publicly interrogated on your source if it’s all misinformation! No one wants to be branded as “the one so full of crap, if you shut your mouth your butt would talk!” Many may not know it, but there’s a difference between fact and opinion. And everyone knows opinions are like buttholes. Everyone has one and most of them stink. Thus Booty Chatter was born!

—- Kat Gottlich / “Kat Got Your Tongue”